"Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence."

~ Sydney Smith

18

Jared has now turned 18. I still can't believe it. This birthday of his was tougher for me to face than my own 40th. My little boy...legally considered an "adult." But he will always be my baby.

Through all the ins and outs of this growing up process, I still believe what I've always told you, Jared:
You are fabulous! I love you, Bear.

The persistent plastic bag...

One year ago, a white plastic bag lodged itself in a tree in my backyard...within view of my favorite seat in the living room. I had to look at it all winter (it was too high to get it down) and was happy when the leaves came back and hid it. Well the leaves are now gone, but the bag still remains. It's a bit worse for the wear, but still hanging on. It can't last forever...can it?

"Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives."
- C.S. Lewis

"We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen."

~Paulo Coelho

"Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment."
~Benjamin Franklin

Smashmouth quote...

Line from the Smashmouth song "New Planet"...

We need a new planet
You were a rock but I took you for granite

Just kind of clever and I like it.

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
~ Dr. Seuss.

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ... You must do the thing you think you cannot do."

~Eleanor Roosevelt

New spot?

I think I may have found something to replace Bean Tree Bistro (as if that's really possible). Yesterday I tried Camille's Cafe. More of a restaurant than a coffee shop, not enough dessert choices, but they do have a good looking menu...and they have outdoor tables, which are even on the west side of their building (same as Bean Tree) so I can go there in the evening and see the sunset. Of course it's not quite the same, but I'll give it a try.

Farewell Bean Tree

My favorite coffee shop, Bean Tree Bistro, is open for the last day today. No other shop in town has the ambience this one does or tables outside where you can watch the sunset. I went there last night and had many recollections of times spent there with friends and family. Among the fondest were memories of long and varied conversations with my dear Jeanne, who I miss so much. Makes saying goodbye to Bean Tree sort of feel like another goodbye to her. So now I have my memories, my souvenir mug and (thanks to Laura) a plate from the shop showing two friends talking.

More and more lately I'm seeing that things change, children grow up, people leave and life keeps moving on...that's just the way it is.
*sigh*
I know there are good things in change, too...they're just hard to spot sometimes.

It would appear from the looks of this weblog that in the past month I've had nothing to say. For those who know me at all...seems hard to believe, doesn't it?

I still remember these lines from the prologue of Chaucer's "Canterbury Tales." Had to learn it in English Lit, with Mrs. Oosterhart - who is still at GHS, I might add. See? It hasn't been *that* long since I was in high school!

Whan that aprill with his shoures soote
The droghte of march hath perced to the roote,
And bathed every veyne in swich licour
Of which vertu engendred is the flour;

If none of this makes much sense as you read it, that's because it's in Middle English. Let me know if you'd like me to translate. What got me thinking of this is that the "Word of the Day" on Dictionary.com is virtu.

virtu (vuhr-TOO) noun:
1. love of or taste for fine objects of art.
2. Productions of art (especially fine antiques).
3. Artistic quality.

"You have shown me more wonders than are known in the whole of heaven."

- Out of the Silent Planet
C. S. Lewis

I happened to be talking to a young man about this book yesterday. Haven't read this series in years...but I think I should pick it up again.

Quotation for April 27, 2006:

"The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are."

Selected Literary Essays
C. S. Lewis

New York City

New York was fabulous! Went to a Broadway show ("Odd Couple"), strolled Central Park, watched the sunset from the top of the Empire State building, visited the Statue of Liberty and Ground Zero, ate at several great restaurants, had hours of rehearsal and, best of all...SANG IN CARNEGIE HALL!

Mass Mutual

This is the newest adventure at our house. Ready, set, go, Art! You're going to be great.



(Friends and family: be sure to call Art when you need financial planning/investing/insurance help)

Second Hand Lions

I had heard good things about this movie and finally saw it this week.
I loved it!

Done with Violence

My friend, Jack, had a link to an article by Mark Morford on his weblog:

"Something has happened. Something has switched over in the past few years of my life, some sort of awareness has been raised and a threshold has been lowered and I now cannot help but see stark displays of brutish violence -- in movies, on TV, in real life -- as exactly what they are: Dark, dank, base energy, cancerous and poisonous, and I do not care where it is or if it's couched in the context of "raw" moviemaking or gritty urban inner-city tale. I am done."

I agree with what Jack said...it would be so nice if this could be the start of a new movement.

Thought of the Day:

"Let us learn to appreciate there will be times when the trees will be bare, and look forward to the time when we may pick the fruit."

~Peter Sellers (1925-1980) English Comic Actor

Thought of the Day:

"The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools."
~Confucius (551-479BC) Chinese Ethical Teacher, Philosopher

A favorite excerpt from "Gilead"

"In every important way we are such secrets from each other, and I do believe that there is a separate language in each of us, also a separate aesthetics and a separate jurisprudence. Every single one of us is a little civilization built on the ruins of any number of preceding civilizations, but with our own variant notions of what is beautiful and what is acceptable - which, I hasten to add, we generally do not satisfy and by which we struggle to live. We take fortuitous resemblances among us to be actual likeness, because those around us have also fallen heir to the same customs, trade in the same coin, acknowledge, more or less, the same notions of decency and sanity. But all that really just allows us to coexist with the inviolable, untranversable, and utterly vast spaces between us."
"Gilead" -- Marilynne Robinson

Thought of the day:

"Life's under no obligation to give us what we expect."
~Margaret Mitchell (1900-1949) American Novelist

Open minded discussion on ID vs. evolution

From a recent radio address by Dr. Rex M. Rogers,
"I’m not a proponent of evolution. But I’m not afraid for evolution, I.D., or creationism to be taught in a public school classroom. I’d contend that one cannot be well educated without knowing something about all of these views, whatever your conclusions about their veracity. In an open, unbiased investigation, truth takes care of itself. To science and religion I’d say open the door." more...

Quotation for Tuesday, March 7, 2006:

"'Well, Sir, if things are real, they're there all the time.'
'Are they?' said the Professor."

The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe

Thought of the Day:

"Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties."
~Erich Fromm

Left, Moderate, Right

From the blog of Dr. Rex M. Rogers, "The late Reverend E.V. Hill, senior pastor of the Mount Zion Missionary Baptist Church in Los Angeles, once said, 'I’ve had experience with the Left wing and I’ve had experience with the Right wing, and I’ve discovered those wings come from the same bird!' This dynamic, African American leader is gone now, but let’s hope his wisdom didn’t die with him." more...

Thought of the Day:

"Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything."
~ George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish-born English Dramatist, Novelist, Critic

"Promise of a New Day"

(fluffy clouds...in black and white)

Thought of the Day:

"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they will not be here tomorrow. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again."
~ Og Mandino, 1923-1996 (Adapted) Author of 'The Greatest Salesman In The World'

Delayed reaction

My dear friend, Jim, was kind enough to point out to me that I failed to call sufficient attention to his birthday last Friday the 17th. For the record, I did call him on his birthday. He was down in New Orleans helping with hurricane cleanup...because he's just that kind of a guy.


And...happy 1st anniversary to Jim and Ann (Feb. 12)!

Word of the Day

susurrus \su-SUHR-uhs\, noun:
A whispering or rustling sound; a murmur.

Still, the breeze is soothing, as is the susurrus of the branches.
-- Michael Finkel, "Tree Surfing and Other Lofty Pleasures," The Atlantic, March 1998

He heard the susurrus of curtains luffed by the breeze.
-- Erik Larson, Isaac's Storm

Every time she walked into the back yard, she heard the susurrus of a white plastic bag stuck in a tree.
-- Me, for real

Birthday girl

Oops. I should've posted this last weekend.
Erica turned 11 on the 12th.

So totally adorable!

Today makes three months exactly that a white plastic bag has been stuck up in a tree in my backyard. Doesn't seem to matter what the weather does, this thing won't budge. It's far too high to reach to pull down, and it's not a tree one can climb (not me, anyway).

Hopefully when the leaves come back it will at least be hidden, if it doesn't come down before then. So let's see...March, April, May. Great...another three months.

Happy Birthday to me!

Rights

I'm very thankful to live in a free society. If I so choose, I can swear a blue streak and insult government leaders with a megaphone. I can be a jerk to everyone I meet and act rudely at every turn. I can take gross, embarrassing photos and hang them all over my house. I can spout off against all religions and ethnicities. I can smoke and drink and eat junk until I destroy my body. No one would arrest me...legally I could get away with all of that. Ok, great. I'm glad I'm free.

But just because I can, that doesn't mean I should.

(I have a right to say more about that, but...enough said)

Mythbusters

This is my new favorite TV show..."Mythbusters" on the Discovery Channel.




Never a dull moment for poor Buster.

This just in...

Pampered Australian merino sheep who listen to opera have again produced a bale of the world's finest wool, matching the record set by the flock last year.
The special flock is kept mostly indoors in small groups and listens to music, including Italian opera and recordings of Italian singer
Andrea Bocelli.
Each sheep is shorn once a year and the flock is fed a secret diet of grains and specially grown hay, based on advice from a sheep nutritionist.


Ok, I want one of those sweaters.

Pride

Have to say, I was extremely proud of my little girl when she sang her solo on Sunday. Oh yeah...and she was kind enough to let me join in.

So hard to believe you just turned 14. Please stay this sweet forever, honey. I remember when you were little and wanted me to pretend with you and trade roles. You said, "I'll be the mommy and you be the honey." :) I loved that and all the many times when you performed for me standing on the living room chair with the window blind cord for a microphone. So much cuteness.

man·tra (MON-tra)
n.
A commonly repeated word or phrase:

“Today's edutainment software comes shrinkwrapped in the magic mantra: ‘makes learning fun.’” (Clifford Stoll).

I used this quote before, quite a while ago. After spending three hours in the dentist's chair this week, it seemed appropriate again.

"It doesn't really matter whether you grip the arms of the dentist's chair or let your hands lie in your lap. The drill drills on."

A Grief Observed

Quotation for Monday, January 16, 2006:

"The great thing to do with unhappy times is to take them bit by bit, hour by hour...like an illness. It is seldom the present, the exact present, that is unbearable."

Letters to an American Lady
(C.S. Lewis)

The Heavenly Bed

If you're looking for a gift to buy me for my birthday next month, I'll take this whole thing, please...mattress, sheets, down blanket, down comforter and the most phenomenal down pillows ever. Slept in the Heavenly Bed at the Westin in Chicago last year. Oh...my...goodness.

"Every night, wrap yourself in the Heavenly Bed - ten layers of pure comfort atop the most sensuous of mattresses.

The Heavenly Bed was conceived by Barry S. Sternlicht, former Chairman and CEO of Starwood Hotels & Resorts Worldwide, Inc., and modeled after his bed at home in Connecticut. After months of testing hundreds of mattresses, pillows and bed linens, the Heavenly Bed was born."

Quotation for Thursday, January 05, 2006:

In light of the recent gray weather we've had...

"Very likely, what with enemies, and mountains, and rivers to cross, and losing our way, and next to nothing to eat, and sore feet, we'll hardly notice the weather."

The Silver Chair
C. S. Lewis

Word of the Day for Sunday January 1, 2006

I use this word, but people never seem to know what I'm talking about.

vim - noun:

Power; force; energy; spirit; activity; vigor.

The 76-year-old retired Malaysian schoolteacher displayed so much vim during a recent hike through a national park in Sarawak, astonished rangers began calling her a "recycled teenager."
--Choong Tet Sieu, "The Power to Go On and On," Asiaweek, July 28, 2000

Eric Clapton

I really like the new CD I got for Christmas, "Eric Clapton Unplugged."
Now I just need to see if I can get someone to buy me his new one for my birthday next month.